Marriage

Pro’s of Getting Married at a Young Age!

March 7, 2018 /

First, let me tell you a little bit of our history!

My husband and I have known each other since he was 17 and I was 14. He tried to talk to me through MYSPACE! That’s how long ago it was. He was consistent, I’ll give him that. We talked every now and then, but we never really took the time to actually get to know each other until we got older. I was in High School, my junior year, and my husband was 21 when we actually started “talking, talking.” But this time was different for some reason. I introduced him to my family and we hung out a couple of times. We officially started dating on March 26, 2013. I moved out of my parent’s house on November 2013 & found out I was pregnant on January 2014, my 18th birthday. We got our own place in August of that year and had our first daughter in September. There was no doubt in my mind that I did not want to marry my best friend (although we were VERY young.) We had our second daughter on January 2016, and got married through court on our 3 year anniversary, March 26, 2016. Then we got married through church the year after. This month is actually our 5 YEAR ANNIVERSARY & 2 YEAR ANNIVERSARY of being married! It’s crazy to think about how much has happened in such little time. & yet, I still love him more and more every day. He IS my best friend.

Okay, now to the Pro’s and Con’s:

PROS:

  • Growing old together, this is a big one for me. We get to experience everything together. We have so many things that we get to do for the FIRST TIME…TOGETHER. We went on our FIRST CRUISE for our honeymoon last year. This year we’re going on our FIRST PLANE RIDE! Moments like that with your spouse are the best. & looking back at everything is awesome. We get to have all these memories together and I love that.

 

  • Another pro for me is that we got to start our family at a young age. The way I see it, we can have our kids now, struggle while we’re young and then enjoy and relax once they get older. We can actually have fun with our kids once they get older since they will be at the age where they remember our family vacations and we (as parents) can enjoy as well because hopefully by that time we’ll be more settled down. Basically, I would rather struggle now that we’re young and are full of energy than struggle later when we get older and get tired easily and get more worn out. (I understand that everyone has their own personal opinion about having kids at a young age; this is mine.)

 

  • But what I love the MOST about getting married at a young age is that we basically get to build our empire together! We started off with nothing, neither of us had ANYTHING! Not even vehicles! We were both still living with our parents when we made the commitment of living together. Of course we had help, but for the most part, we were on our own. I think this is a “Pro” for me because we were both there with each other from the beginning. We struggled, but we struggled together. Seeing both of us stick through it all together was proof that we could handle a few rough patches.

CONS:

  • People will judge and think of you differently. They will think you’re throwing your life away or that you have no idea what you’re getting into. & it is a big deal; getting married is a BIG DEAL. It should not be something that’s decided from one day to the next. You have to be sure that you plan on spending the rest of your life with that person. I’m not saying this was something that made me think twice because I really don’t mind what people have to say (People will talk regardless). But it can be a big con to somebody who tends to be more sensitive.

Okay, so originally this post was supposed to be a list of pros and cons, but I could not think of anymore cons! I even talked about it with my husband and I really could not think of any reason specifically of why you should not get married at a young age personally. It’s really up to the couple. This may be because I haven’t had any major problems since I’ve been married with my husband. The only thing I do recommend is to think about it. Don’t get married just for the fun of it. Marriage is a serious commitment. Also, marriage is not just a one-person thing. You both have to be sure that you are BOTH ready for that type of commitment and are willing to stick together through the bad and the good.

Once again, these are MY opinions on the topic. I understand that this is a touchy subject for some, and I don’t expect everyone to agree with my opinion. I am just giving my input.

XO,

Mariela Oviedo

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